Extending Your Boundaries

Enlarge the place of your tent, and let the curtains of your habitations be stretched out; spare not; lengthen your cords and strengthen your stakes – Yeshaiyahu bar Amotz (AMPLIFIED)

Last week we began to share about Breaking Traditions and Limitations.  As a continuation I would like us to look at going beyond the limitations and setting new frontiers in our lives.  This week I would like to encourage somebody who has not been making progress. You have been going round in circles. Lots of motion no progress? Lots of investment no return? You have been in that job for far too long? They probably have already given you an asset number. Your business can’t go beyond a certain revenue threshold? Your finances never seem to break even?  Let this be your season to break out and breakthrough.

Your comfort zone, has now become a zone of lack of progress? I want to encourage someone who is doing well, but is operating below full capacity. You can do better and you know it. As you break with traditions and limitations this is a time to go beyond the boundaries of fear, inadequacy, education, geography and any other challenges. Yes you can!

I would like to share some laws that are important to help you extend your boundaries.

Law of Dreams

Dreams are the seedlings of reality. In a moment of inspiration I took some pictures of acorns (seeds) from a giant oak at Johannesburg Country Club last week. In that seed lays the possibility of the biggest oak tree in the world. So it is with dreams…something so big might be hidden in your dreams.  A dream is a glimpse into the future. When you dream you take a peek into the future. To dream is a foretaste of what can be. If you are going to be dreaming you might as well dream big.

Law of Seed

The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them – Albert Einstein

You cannot plant lemons and expect to reap oranges. The Law of Seed means that what you sow is what you reap. In order to extend your boundaries you need to start sowing a different kind of seed than what you you have been doing.  You need to sow of your time, money, prayer, energy etc in order to go to the next level. Your seed will take you to the next level.

But how can I be a billionaire if I don’t have billions to sow? Good question. This law works in conjunction with the Law of Multiplication. A forest started as a seed which multiplied over time. You can start today to sow seeds to get you to the next level.

Law of Thoughts

Empires of the future are empires of the mind – Winston Churchill

As a man thinketh, so is he. You cannot extend your boundaries, beyond your belief system. You are a product of everything your mind has imbibed. Your life moves in the direction of your most dominant thoughts. Thoughts, habits and circumstances exist in a continuum where the one leads to the other. Thoughts turn into habits, which will in turn solidify into circumstances. To change or manage your circumstances of your life you need to change your thoughts. Think possibilities, health, success and soon you will become a product of your thoughts.

Law of Images

What you continually see you eventually become. This is the secret behind television advertising. They repeatedly show adverts on TV in order to create an affinity in your mind. You need to surround yourself with images of possibility. If you want a particular car, make it a screen saver on your computer or cell phone. If you want a nice house, put up pictures of nice houses around you. Set the context of your life. Images of what you wish for will inspire you.

This is a season to go to a new level. Change your operating system of thought and beliefs as you seek to upgrade your life and those around you.

You are a generation who, like the eagle, will soar on the thermals of My Spirit and mount up to new heights. I am the Wind beneath your wings, and I say to you arise…time to arise

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Breaking Traditions and Limitations

To succeed once, challenge the traditions of others; to succeed twice, challenge your own traditions – Lovemore Nyatsine, Founder of Seedbed

This weekend I have been reflecting on the things that limit us in life. I flashed back to my early years. I imagined myself in my mother’s womb for 9 months. I fast forward a little bit when I was now in my crib. I can imagine my mother’s protective eye and hands making sure I do not venture into danger. A few years later, there I was at the local crèche, in a classroom full of crying toddlers on the first day….I am crying the loudest.  It’s getting a bit uncomfortable, but soon the discomfort disappears and let the games begin. This place is fun, oh I love this place! I wonder why mum and dad did not take me to this place earlier. Two years later, my game is up and am now in junior school. My elder siblings go out of their way to ‘protect me’ to make sure I am behaving and not putting the good family name to disrepute.

At this school they soon begin to put us in groups, and they say we can’t do this or that sport. Everything in the school is directed by a bell which signals when a lesson is over and when we must go for breaks. And there are these people called prefects who interfere with my ‘liberty’. I don’t like this place. Fast forward. I am now in secondary school…having been forced to do some stuff called Biology and Math’s. But I really don’t like this stuff. I complete secondary school, and there is discussion in the family that I must go to an agriculture college so I can help in the family farm. A farmer?  Ummm wrong move.  That day I became a rebel.

My father had bought the family farm in Juliasdale in 1981 when I was in crèche and the routine had always been when the schools holidays come we would all go to the farm. Being the youngest I was the shepherd boy looking after the sheep in the paddocks. I believed there was more to my world than this routine. I took my brother, Livingstone’s old maroon blazer, and old school case (trunk) and went to high school with no school fees. I had decided to make a different investment in my life and break with traditions and limitations.  That day marked a new journey of self discovery.

Get Out of the Box

It is clear life is lived in a series of boxes. The womb, the crib, the home, school, town, faculty, syllabi, curricula, department, industry or job description. That is all good. However the danger is these boxes can rob your life of meaning and purpose. If you don’t challenge these boxes you can have a life without a soul, education without learning, a job without a career, happiness with no joy, motion with no progress. You become a slave to limiting paradigms, concepts, values, perceptions and practices. I could have been a farmer, but farming is no fun for me. I am not wired for farming. You need to get out of the box. It could be your hometown, industry, job description, qualifications. Life is too short to be lived in a box…burn the box and start to live as your Creator intended for you.

Challenge Traditions

The deeply encoded lessons of the past that are passed from one generation to another while good can be limiting. You cannot intercept the future by repeating the past. Neither can you drive a car by looking in the rear view mirror. To escape the gravitational pull of the past, be convinced that the future is a better proposition.

Let me quickly share with you something about kids. Kids are naïve. They don’t know what is possible and impossible. Why can’t you touch the stars, they ask. Adults are smart. They know the possible from the impossible. So they don’t ask silly questions and don’t hope for the impossible. And when confronted with a child’s mind, they quickly dismiss it and say, “Because that’s the way it is!” But it needn’t be that way. Why not ask “Why couldn’t it be different?” Having watched her father take a picture, Dr. Edward Land’s 3 year old daughter asked if she could see the results NOW. That innocent question set Dr. Land off to create instant photography now known as Polaroid. Years later Land was quoted, “We really don’t invent new products…, the best one’s are already there, only invisible, just waiting to be discovered.” We need to begin challenging everything by asking, “Why Can’t”, Why Couldn’t”, “Why Not”, “Why”?

We need to not only challenge the norm, but expand our peripheral vision and extend our boundaries.

In the next article I will share about Extending Your Boundaries covering the principles you must apply to break traditions and limitations.

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Unlimited Possibilities

To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment – Ralph Waldo Emerson

I conducted a workshop at a client last week. At this client site you can only gain access into and around the building using finger print ID technology. If your finger prints are not recognised by the system, then you can’t move around on your own. On this particular day I was at my adventurous best and decided to take an unguided tour. I went through the first door by tagging along with someone whose fingerprint was in the system. That is as far as I went because he was going to another part in the building. I tried to place my fingerprint on the access panel and a red light flashed. Access denied. It then dawned on me that I was stuck. I tried all my fingers, and even spoke the heavenly language. Still access denied. I stayed there for a good ten minutes before an escort came to ‘set me free’.  I was then given a guided tour and even ended up speaking to one good Doctor in Aeronautics who will organise for me to take some flying lessons.

As I drove home, I began to reflect on this experience. I imagined how in life we try to open the right doors with the wrong keys and vice versa. I thought about how we make things difficult for ourselves instead of getting the right people to open doors for us. I will share the lessons from this self reflection.

You Are The Key

In a world with billions of people, no one catch match your fingerprints. That is how unique and special you are. It means there you are the unique key to certain opportunities in this world. The world is full of doors of possibilities but unless you unlock them with your uniqueness, they will remain closed. You need to discover who you are and begin to create solutions to humanity’s needs around your uniqueness.

You are fearfully and wonderfully made. The Creator took His time and great care to wire you up to deliver something special to this world. You are a special package containing goodies of greatness for delivery to humanity. Keys are made to size and shape. Don’t try to do everything, if the Creator wanted us to be a master key, He would have made us all the same. Your strengths, personality, size, shape, height, skills and passions make you just the right person to do something in this world which only you can do it.

Get To The Right Door

As I set about to check out this client premises I had no idea where I was going to. It was just the sense of adventure that got me going. The lesson from this is that sometimes in life people set out to do things without any aim. The result is they find themselves stuck. You end going to the wrong doors, expend your energy and your time. This can be easily addressed by sitting down and coming up with a purpose and vision of what you want to do in life. There are stories of people who are in the wrong profession, wrong business and wrong relationship. Why? They probably knocked on the wrong door. To unlock possibilities you need to go to the right door. If you are going to wrong door you are like a knife trying to be a saw – you limit your possibilities.

Find An Escort

If there are doors of opportunity which only you can open, it means there are some which only other people can open. I took an unguided tour without an escort and spend a frustrating ten minutes stuck. This is what happens when you don’t get someone else with the key to unlock possibilities for you. It can be a whole lifetime of frustration. That job from hell. That business which is giving you sleepless nights. Use your networks, colleagues, friends, professionals, a coach or a mentor to help unlock doors for you.

Every opportunity is just one person away; you just need to know who that person is. My escort at this company took me to this good Doctor who will now help me realise my lifelong dream of flying a plane. What could have been an aimless walkabout or tour became an opportunity. Unlocking possibilities! Yes you can…

Authentic Personal Branding

‘We attain the greatest success and happiness possible in this life when we use our native capacities to their greatest extent’ – Dr Blanton

I have a Gucci suit which I bought for a tidy US dollar sum. One day I saw a colleague wearing the same ‘Gucci’ suit. I made a comment about how the suit was a nice Gucci, and that I owned exactly the same suit. He just laughed and opened the inside of the suit to reveal the suit label. Alas it was a ‘fong kong’ or a ‘zhing zhong’. It had all the appearance of a Gucci suit but was not the real thing. On a closer look, the inside lining was already torn, and the outside material had bubbles betraying every pretence of being a Gucci.

Ok, ok let me play the bad guy, lest you lose the lesson because you think I am being self conceited. My brother in law recently got a birthday present of an Arsenal football club jersey bought straight from the Emirates Stadium in the UK. It has the look and feel of an authentic Arsenal jersey…sweat absorption, aerodynamic texture…all the bells and whistles. I also have a Chelsea club jersey bought from ‘downtown’. Each time I have worn this jersey, my 3 year old daughter Zoe, always says, ‘Dad everyone will laugh at you’. I don’t know what she saw in that jersey, but I have now restricted wearing that jersey to the indoors following her ‘daughterly’ advice.

What are the lessons? Your personal brand is pretty much like a product. If you are not authentic, when people take a closer look, they will see the torn lining, bubbles, warts and all. Let’s dig deeper into this.

Personal Branding

Personal Branding is a way of clarifying or communicating what makes you different and special. It is an understanding of your unique attributes namely your passions, strengths, values and skills. It is about what makes you ‘younique’. It is more than a logo, a tagline, airbrushing or a spin job but a unique promise of the value you were born to add to this world. Those attributes which make you fit to execute your special assignment in this world. Your personal brand cannot be separated from what makes you unique – your strengths, skills, passions and values. You cannot fake these attributes otherwise you will soon be exposed as not being authentic. Understanding your personal brand helps you define the direction which your life must take professionally or in business.

You Are The Real Thing

Purpose authenticates your brand. Your purpose is linked to your wiring (passions, values, skills and strengths). Passion for your purpose comes when you are exceedingly motivated by your work because you have faith in its inherent worth, and you can apply your capabilities to utmost effect. Personal branding is permission to be your authentic self. A secure identity is the foundation for developing a strong and authentic personal brand. The best brands simply express who they are. Coca Cola is ‘brrrrrrrrr’ wherever you are…it will always be Coca Cola. Like Coke, be driven by your unique attributes. Do not try to be another Mother Theresa, Jack Welch, Branson, Motsepe, Dr King Jr, Masiyiwa, Mandela or Oprah. The world needs fresh inspiration from you. You are robbing the world of the next biggest thing after Obama by sitting on your immense gifting.

Generational Personal Branding

There is nothing inspirational about being the ‘ex-powerhouse, former top leader, once a democrat et.c. I know of leaders in different spheres from my hometown who are now a former shadow of themselves. What went wrong? They failed the generational branding test. If your personal brand will die within one generation, then it is not an authentic brand. Generation is made up of two words gene and ration which literally means spreading or rationing your genes over time. An authentic brand is able to be reproduced and spread over many generations. You were born when Coca Cola was around, and I have no doubt that your grandchildren will still drink Coke. Now that is an authentic brand.

Success is not about ‘having’ but about ‘being’. Greatness is not measured by what you have, but by what you give. You give by investing in your personality, so that you become so great that many aspire to your inspiration. ‘Being’ means becoming what you must be and maximizing your full potential. Invest in your strengths, skills, passions and values so that you can positively influence those in your sphere of influence. One day future generations must be able to celebrate your personal brand, stand on your shoulders see greater possibilities ahead and be inspired to open new frontiers for the next generation.

Unbreakable Spirit

It is not the strongest of the species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the most responsive to change — Charles Darwin

I recently travelled to Zimbabwe. I marveled at the level of resilience of the folks I met. In particular a relative narrated how he was beaten in the post 29 March hostilities. He shared how he struggled with the serious hunger that ravaged Zimbabwe last year. He was earning less than 30 US cents per day as a porter and has a wife and four children.  As if that was not enough, he almost died from cholera at the height of the epidemic late last year. This is a lot to happen to anybody in any part of the world.

There is something which I found striking about him – he laughed about the experiences and demonstrated a readiness to reclaim his life. One word explains his spirit – RESILIENCE! None of these experiences broke his spirit. He has bounced back from a time of severe challenges. After my chat with him, I was refreshed than depressed. He is the symbol of the resilience of many in Zimbabwe who have experienced more than 10 years of extremely difficult conditions but have not given up on their dreams. You need to develop this unbreakable spirit in order to overcome any challenges on your voyage to greatness.

Resilience

The word resilience comes from the Latin word resile which means to leap back. Resilience is the ability to recover from or adjust easily to misfortune or change. It is also the capability of a strained body to recover its size and shape – to bounce back – after being subjected to adversity or stress. If you subject a spring or a stress ball to pressure it will come back to its original size and form. If you have resilience it means when you are subjected to pressure or adversity you do not lose your orientation or focus.

Resilience is a combination of faith, love and hope. The faith to see your dreams in the land of hope far ahead. The love to pursue your dreams with the passion of a zealot, and a readiness to sacrifice without complaining.

Dimensions of Resilience

1. Self-Assurance

You need to view the world as complex and challenging but filled with opportunity. Hold a positive self-perception and self regard. Be confident in your ability to meet any challenge with hope and realistic optimism.

2. Personal Vision/Purpose

You must have certainty of what you believe in. It must be something to live for and if necessary to die for. Have a clear vision of what you want to accomplish/achieve. Approach adversity and stress with a sense of hope. Belief and purpose carries you forward in life. With no vision you are like a cork floating in water…you will go anywhere, or a ship on dry ground, you will go nowhere.

3. Flexible/Adaptable

“Blessed are the flexible, for they shall not be bent out of shape” – Dr Michael McGriffy

Flexibility is about being aware of and sensitive to changes in the environment. In business we talk of operational agility. It is the ability to shift gears in response to what is happening. Remain true to your purpose/vision while making room for other ideas and opportunities. The giant oak which does not bend when the wind comes is uprooted. It must learn from the grass which survives the wind because it knows how to bend.

4. Organized

You need to create structures and methods to bring order and stability on your own terms. Set realistic goals for yourself. Manage the stormy moments with calm and clarity of purpose. The best way to deal with times of uncertainty and great difficulty is to be organized. Organising brings certainty to uncertainty.

5. Problem Solver

Think critically and reflectively. View impossible problems as challenges and opportunities for learning and growth. Anticipate setbacks and missteps. Solve problems for the long long-term. View failures as opportunities for inspiration to do better.

Never allow anything to break your spirit. Even 27 years in jail would not break Nelson Mandela’s spirit. This is the power of resilience. I could share about Viktor Frankl in Nazi camps or how President Jacob Zuma bounced back from the political wilderness to win convincingly. The measure of a man is the way he bears up under misfortune. No one sees your courage in the sunshine. It takes difficulty and darkness to prove bravery

Resilience is the shield which protects your dreams from the fiery darts of adversity!

Created For Mastery Part 2

When you row another person across the river, you get there yourself – Fortune Cookie

‘Mr CEO, you are looking at a frustrated employee’. These were the words which I told my Chief Executive some years ago. I had been going through some challenging moments in my career. It was a Sunday afternoon, and I had just popped in to send an email to the CEO when he happened to be also in the office. I placed a call on his extension and he agreed to meet me that very same day. I narrated to him my frustrations and he responded by quoting the wisdom of King Solomon saying – ‘A man’s gift makes room for him, and brings him before great men’.

It was a simple response yet profound. It stirred the gift (talent) in me, and from that day I did some interesting things in my career, and experienced accelerated progress. Today my voice is heard in places I have not been to because someone dared me to discover my great within. That CEO’s name is Mr Douglas Mboweni and is still the CEO of Econet Wireless Zimbabwe. The fact that he has won numerous personal business awards and that Econet is by any measure one of, if not the best and biggest companies in Zimbabwe, speaks volumes about Douglas Mboweni’s leadership skills, in particular his people skills. It is the soft stuff which drives hard results.

Let me unpack the people mastery lessons from this moment, building on the Personal Mastery insights from last week.

People Mastery

People mastery is the ability to bring out the best in others. It is your skill in adjusting your actions in order to optimise the abilities of others around you. The reason why personal mastery is important is so that you have better self awareness, self control, self confidence and assertiveness. It is concerned with intrapersonal (what happens in you). People mastery is how you relate with others in a way which empowers others (interpersonal – what happens between you and others). You cannot lead others beyond how you lead yourself. The dimensions of people mastery include empathy,leadership collaboration and developing others.

People mastery is the intelligent use of your emotions to ushers others into their destiny. It is using your light, to gives others light. It is giving voice to the voiceless and using your gifts as wings on which other people’s dreams can fly. You are like the horse of an articulated truck. You have the power and the energy to pull others. If you don’t pull others you will get to your destination with nothing. What a waste of all that energy! More stars give more light.

Empathy – People Are God’s Masterpiece

This dimension is about being sensitive to others’ feelings and perspective, attentive to emotional cues, listening well and help out based on understanding other people’s needs and feelings. Mr Mboweni opened his door to listen to what was on my heart. Each person is a mystery and must be approached with a deep sense of awe. Treat people as special and unique whose depth and breadth you cannot fathom. There is seed of greatness in every one of us. As the masterpiece you are the zenith of creation.

Leadership – Merchants of Hope

One of Mr Mboweni favourite quotes is Napoleon’s, ‘Leaders are merchants of hope’. People mastery like leadership is about inspiring and guiding others, articulating and arousing enthusiasm for a shared destination of hope. On that day when I was despondent, he gave me hope. He ignited the embers which were dying in me. Do you crush the hope of those around you? Do you inspire others to become great? Are you a giant surrounded by dwarfs?

Ennobling and Enabling

You do not become great by what you accumulate but by what you give. A high and mighty leader strips others of confidence, pride and any sense of self worth. That Sunday afternoon, he could have easily rejected my request to see him, let alone at such an immediate notice. Remember I was then, ‘a mere junior staff member who was expected to tip toe when walking in the Executive Wing corridor’. People mastery is about ennobling and enabling others. It is about making others blossom with confidence in your presence than shrink with fear.

Sense what others need to develop, acknowledge and reward people’s strengths, accomplishments and development. Celebrate others, sing their songs, and touch their hearts before you ask for their hands.

GAINING MASTERY IN LIFE CONFERENCE – If you are in South Africa or in the region, El Shaddai World Ministries will be hosting this conference this weekend. Masters in various spheres of life will be sharing, including Bishop Tudor Bismark, author and motivational teacher Pastor Charles Magaiza, African Sun CEO, Pastor Shingi Munyeza, business leader Apostle Sam Fidelis. For registration details go to www.elshaddaiworld.org

Created For Mastery Part 1

Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others is strength; mastering yourself is true power - Lao-tzu

Have you ever sought to understand why some people seem to be more successful than others? Why do other people appear to always be making progress where you battle? Are great or successful people born or made? Are some people wired for success while others are not? In my search for answers, I have come to the revelation that there are four levels of mastery in life namely Personal Mastery, People Mastery, Societal Mastery and Business/Organisational Mastery.

If you are going to be a success in life, you need mastery in all these four levels. Mastery is the possession or display of great skill or technique. It is the power to dominate or defeat or the state of excelling or surpassing or going beyond the usual limits.

Created to Dominate

“Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion…” – Gen 1:28

The very first commandment to man, by the Creator was for us to be fruitful (profitable), multiply (replicate and expand our sphere of influence) and to have dominion (mastery). This is the general purpose for which you were created. This settles any lingering doubts you might have had about whether you were created to be great. If you are not pursuing a path of greatness, you are abusing your general purpose in life. The genes of greatness are set in in you. If you do not activate this greatness, your life is like a Mini Cooper running on a Mercedes Benz engine. You are limiting the full potential of what’s inside you.

Personal Mastery

Your life is like a ship. The seas of life include the winds of economic cycles, the pirates of bad politics, the storms of failure, the icebergs of uncertainty and calm moments of smooth progress. You are the captain of that ship called your life. Is your life in safe hands? Can you trust yourself at the helm of this ship? It’s not what happens on the sea which determines whether a ship reaches its destination safely – it’s what happens in the ship’s control room. If you are not in control, you will soon hit an ice berg or you will be swept away by stormy seas of life.

In order to be a master at anything in life you need to master self. Personal mastery is the ability to make the most of your abilities, strengths, passions and talents. This helps you navigate through challenging times with confident balance. It is an ability to deeply listen and respond skillfully to the soft whispers that warn you when you are drifting off course. If you wish to control and direct the forces you possess, you must act from the throne of your being – the head office of your life.

Personal mastery is continuously making conscious choices…to get from who and where you are to who and where you want to be as opposed to wandering through life making unconscious choices. It is playing the game of life…enjoying the journey of life and not just waiting for the destination. You always have choices and you have the power to choose. You are never a victim of circumstance, but a product of choice. Personal mastery is managing the conflicts you face each day between expectations, consequences and choices.

Steps To Personal Mastery

1. Create A Personal Vision: Where there is no vision, a life will perish. A personal vision creates a central theme for your life. It gives your life meaning and a sense of purpose. It’s the roadmap to your destination of greatness. It’s the shining beacon which keeps you focused, motivated and fulfilled. It accelerates the progress while inspiring creativity and risk.
2. Self Awareness: You are a creature of thought and habit. You therefore need an awareness of how your beliefs, values, attitudes and behaviour impact yourself and your environment (family, friends, and colleagues). An awareness of your strengths and weakness determines how you position yourself in life, how you build your personal brand, and play your strengths (competitive advantage)
3. Self Acceptance: own your thoughts, belief and blind spots and stop believing that the world is doing things to you. Neither does the world, employer or your country owe you a living. A captain of a ship who is always blaming the sea elements for lack of progress will soon give up. You are in charge of your own success – not your employer, organisation or the people around you.
4. Self Responsibility: understand how your choices (action, attitude, thought) influence and create your life. It is also about integrity – a life based on values and principles. Without these your life is like an unfortified city which will soon be run over by enemies of your success.

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He who rules his spirit has won a greater victory than the taking of a city – Yeshua Mashyach

Riding The Storm

Life throws challenges at you from time to time. You cannot control what happens to you, but you certainly can control your response to what happens to you. This is the essence of personal mastery– an ability to make conscious decisions about how to chart the course of your life and navigate through the challenges. The tree of life challenges and tragedy produces different fruits – you only need to choose which fruits to pick. Fruits of bitterness, discouragement, bitterness or fruits of learning, experience and encouragement? It’s your choice. Victory is not always clothed in the purple of royal pageantry, sometimes it comes in the blood caked clothes of gallantry. True peace is not living in perpetual calm, but having faith throughout the storms.

I would like to share with you the story of a young 27 year old British lady who passed away a few days ago. Jade Goody discovered about a year ago that she had cervical cancer. The doctors tried chemotherapy and surgery, but it was too late. They told her she had two months to live. Her response to this was remarkable. She decided there and then that she was going to make the most of the few remaining months of her life. As a single mother of two, she realised the need to leave a decent inheritance to allow her two young kids a decent education and raise cancer awareness. I want to share a few points from this true story.

Face The Facts

Jade accepted the reality that she had a terminal illness. There is a different between self denial and faith. Faith does not deny the facts. Faith believes in spite of the facts. There is a faith to resist the conditions, but there is also a faith to go through the conditions. Your condition might not be a terminal illness; it could be a cancerous financial problem, a haemoragghing business, a hypertensive relationship, a rickety marriage or an arthritic career.

The first step to addressing the problem is to identify the problem by its name. The longer you stay in self denial, the more the problem multiplies and the less you focus on addressing it. Jade accepted she was terminally ill, and took immediate steps to put her life in order.

Certainty in Uncertain Times

The storms of life are periods of uncertainty. Inaction is the riskiest response to the uncertainties which storms bring. But rash or scattershot action can be nearly as damaging. Rising anxiety and the growing pressure to do something often produces a variety of uncoordinated moves that target the wrong problem or overshoot the right one. A disorganised response can also generate a sense of panic. This can easily distract you from seeing the often hidden but significant opportunities nestled in the storm. You create certainty by taken action. This action is through taking a defensive or offensive positions.

The position you take in the storms determines whether you weather or get swept away by the storm. Jade chose to take a position in her situation of uncertainty by creating certainty. She even planned the details of her own funeral. Her final two months were days of specific and certain progressive actions.

Redeeming The Time

Jade was told she had two months to live and she decided to make the most of that little time. In those two months she had a wedding and went through the marriage ceremony heavily sedated by morphine to ease the pain. She fulfilled a lifelong dream to be a bride and marry her boyfriend. She also organised for herself and her two sons to be christened in church. In between the pain, she also had paid interviews with magazines and made hundred thousands of pounds for her kids. She could have easily chosen to pity party and wallow in crippling sympathy but she chose to make the best of her worst time in life. In the last two months of her life she made enough money to see her children through school. The lesson is that you must allow the storms of life to strengthen your resolve and not cripple you. Maximise the moment and savour the opportunity to make a difference.

Ride The Storm

What do you do when clouds gather and storms come? Run for cover? Lets learn from the eagles. Eagles love the storm. When clouds gather, the eagles get excited. The eagle uses the storm’s winds to lift it higher. Once it finds the wing of the storm, the eagle uses the raging storm to lift him above the clouds. This gives the eagle an opportunity to glide and rest its wings. In the meantime all the other birds hide in the leaves and branches of the trees. When life gives you clouds, make some rain and gives you a storm, ride on it! There is an opportunity in every opposition. There is a testimony in every test. The darkest clouds yield the greatest rain. Your breaking point is your breakthrough moment. When life gives you lemons, make some lemonade. When life throws hard stuff at you, use it to make a firm foundation for your future success.

There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as if everything is – Albert Einstein